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Telling Family Stories

Summary
Telling family stories gives us strength in hard times.

Table of Contents

If you’d like some guidance, watch this video overview of the lesson below.

Preparation Guide (Optional)

Parent Devotional

Use these questions for personal reflection or journaling.

  • What are the patterns from your lineage that you want to continue? What are the patterns that you feel no longer fit?
  • What stories from your parents, grandparents, or great-grandparents haven’t your kids heard yet? Which stories — good or bad — do you feel are worth retelling?
  • How do you make these stories the fabric of your everyday life?

What the Wisdom Says

Use these passages for personal reflection.

“Do not despise the breath of your fathers, but draw it into your body.”
— Native American, Zuni prayer

“If you look deeply into the palm of your hand, you will see your parents and all generations of your ancestors. All of them are alive in this moment. Each is present in your body. You are the continuation of each of these people.”
— Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist monk

“When you don’t know where you’re going, it’s important to remember where you came from.”
— African proverb

Suggested Resources

Use these resources if you want to dive deeper as you prepare.
  • “The Family Stories That Bind Us” by Bruce Feiler in the NYTimes. Citing psychology research, Feiler shows that knowing family stories helps your kids through hard times. He writes, “If you want a happier family, create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones.”
  • “What Kids Learn From Hearing Family Stories” by Elaine Reese in the Atlantic: “When parents share more family stories with their children—especially when they tell those stories in a detailed and responsive way—their children benefit in a host of ways.”
  • Collect your family stories so they’re handy for future Uplift conversations. You might consider a digital service such as StoryWorth or GrandStories.

What the Science Says

Read an insight from an expert in psychology.

“In the preteen years, children whose families collaboratively discuss everyday events and family history more often have higher self-esteem and stronger self-concepts. And adolescents with a stronger knowledge of family history have more robust identities, better coping skills, and lower rates of depression and anxiety.”

— Elaine Reese, Professor of Psychology and author of Tell Me A Story: Sharing Stories to Enrich Your Child’s World

Consider starting with a simple ritual that fits your family: light a candle, meditate, pray, sing, etc.

Opening Family Activity

Watch the 4-minute video “Kids Try Their Great Grandparents’ Favorite Childhood Foods” from HiHo Kids.

If the video sparks questions from your child, let them lead the discussion and see where things go. 

You can also discuss any memories that arise as a result of watching the video, such as:
  • Foods you ate as a child.
  • Memories of your grandparents or great grandparents.
  • Stories that your grandparents or great grandparents told you as a child — especially stories where they had to overcome something scary or difficult.
Optional Activity: Make a family recipe together while you talk about memories. If a grandparent lives nearby, you might consider doing the activity with them.

The following three sections — Uplift Teens, Uplift Kids, and Uplift Littles — are written to each respective age group. The activities can be done with the parent and child or by the child alone.

Uplift Teens

Know Your Past, Know Yourself

How well do you know where you came from?

Knowing the details of your family stories — especially the struggles and achievements — can help you through challenging times in life. At least that’s what a group of researchers found after studying the correlation between resilience and knowing family stories.

Here are some of the questions they asked young people. How many can you answer?

1. Do you know how your parents met?
2. Do you know where your mother grew up?
3. Do you know where your father grew up?
4. Do you know where some of your grandparents grew up?
5. Do you know where some of your grandparents met?
6. Do you know where your parents were married?
7. Do you know what went on when you were being born?
8. Do you know the source of your name?
9. Do you know some things about what happened when your brothers or sisters were being born?
10. Do you know the national background of your family (such as English, German, Russian, etc)?
11. Do you know some of the jobs that your parents had when they were young?

If there are any that you don’t know, ask your parents and grandparents to tell you the story.

Write Your Own Story

Stories can help us know who a person was. If our family didn’t tell us their stories or write them down we wouldn’t have their stories today.

We can start today by writing down our own stories.

What is a story about yourself you would like to pass on to the next generation? Take time now to write it down. You might write about a hardship you’re facing or have overcome. Or you might write down one of your happiest, funniest, or most embarrassing memories. What do you think you’re future self will want to know?

Remember that you’re part of something bigger. Your story, your body holds the DNA and stories from those that came before you, and others yet to come.

"When you don’t know where you’re going, it’s important to remember where you came from."

— African Proverb

Uplift Kids

Hear a Story, Write a Story

Do you know where your grandparents grew up?

Do you know where your parents met?

Do you know the story of your birth?

Researchers have found that kids who know the answers to these questions are more likely to overcome challenging situations in life. How many of these questions can you answer?

If there are any you can’t answer, see if your parents know.



Do these questions make you wonder anything else about your parents or grandparents?

You might ask:

  • What was a particularly hard moment for you in school?
  • Who was a close friend? What did you do together?
  • Was there ever a time you felt embarrassed?

If your parents and grandparents never told these stories and never wrote these stories down, these stories would be forgotten.

What stories do you want to write so people can remember you?



One girl wrote down her experiences in a diary that is still read today. Her name was Anne Frank. “Writing in a diary is a really strange experience for someone like me. Not only because I’ve never written anything before, but also because it seems to me that later on neither I nor anyone else will be interested in the musings of a thirteen-year-old schoolgirl. Oh well, it doesn’t matter. I feel like writing.”

You can write too — to keep your family story alive.

Here are some prompts:

  • What are your favorite stories about your parents or grandparents?
  • What is your favorite food?
  • What is one of the hardest things that has happened this year? How did you deal with it?
As you write down details about your life, you’re helping people in the future.
 

Uplift Littles

Draw your family

 

Use the template below to draw your family.

Download the printable PDF.

Additional options: Find toys that represent each family member — or play a game of charades where each person has to guess which family member you’re pretending to be.

Closing Family Activity

Watch “I Am Moana (Song of the Ancestors)” (3-min video) from Disney.

In this scene, Moana is visited by the spirit of her grandmother, who gives her strength to continue on her journey.

Notice how the message correlates with the Uplift inner compass lesson.

“Nothing on Earth can silence the quiet voice still inside you.”

“The call isn’t out there at all. It’s inside me. It’s like the tide, always falling and rising.
I will carry you here in my heart, you’ll remind me that come what may, I know the way.”

Explain that when we’re tuned into our inner compass and our family stories, we can find the strength to make it through hard times.

Consider closing with a simple ritual that fits your family: blow out the candle, meditate, pray, sing, etc.

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